Post Break-Up Blues

Sharon Fountain

March 23rd, 2015

  • My girlfriend and I broke up a few months ago. How can I start feeling like myself again?

    Whether she was the love of your life or light-hearted fling, break-ups are never easy. I’m sorry that you are still feeling blue. Since it’s been a few months, you may be ready to take action and pick yourself back up. To help re-instill positivity and self-confidence after a break-up, here are a few tips that you might find helpful:

    1. Dial down your social media activity. Break-up protocol can get a bit tricky in the information age. Even if you aren’t in danger of running into your ex on the street, her presence may still be vividly felt on your social media accounts. I’m not suggesting you need to “un-friend” and “un-follow” across the board, but there are settings that will limit your exposure to her. Furthermore, it may be wise to limit the amount of time you spend on social platforms and instead spend time developing new friendships and nurturing old ones.
    2. Try something new, just for you. After a sad life-event, starting a new hobby or setting an exciting goal can mark this new chapter of your life in a positive way. Some worthy ideas include: a new exercise regimen, reading a new book, working toward a promotion, or taking a vacation!
    3. Surround yourself with friends. Most of us are at least a little bit guilty of neglecting our friends during the “honeymoon stage” of a relationship. Take this opportunity to reconnect with old friends and new. Their humor and support will be uplifting as you work toward feeling more like yourself.
    4. Hit the town. There can be something fun and frivolous about going out and hitting the single scene, especially if many of your friends are in relationships. So, grab a single age-appropriate wing-man or wing-woman and hit the town for a night!

    I hope you find these tips helpful. If any readers have tried-and-true break-up remedies—share in the comments! We love hearing from you!


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