My daughter, who shows increasing signs of low self-esteem, is constantly staring in the mirror at herself. Could this be contributing to her confidence struggles?
Simply put, yes. If she is picking her appearance apart while staring at herself in the mirror her confidence can suffer greatly. Watching your child battle with self-confidence issues can be heartbreaking. The overwhelming impact of social media combined with pressures from school, peers and family can take a toll on an individual’s self-esteem.
If a child also suffers from acne and/or acne scarring, they may have an even greater struggle with self-confidence. Acne scarring can take a negative toll on any person’s self-esteem and affect how they see themselves in relation to others. In a recent independent study, 92 percent of people said if their acne scars were healed, they feel it would restore or improve their self-confidence.1 Additionally, 66 percent said their acne scars make them feel frustrated or angry. 2
As a parental guardian, building your child’s self-esteem can be a slow and sometimes difficult process. Here are a few tips to counter this struggle:
- Focus on the internal, not the external. When complimenting your son or daughter, make note of their intelligence, kindness or humor, versus focusing on physical features. This is not to say that you should not compliment them on their appearance, but make a conscious effort to put greater importance on their inner qualities, like their pleasing personality and the way they treat people and themselves.
- Take a moment to ask your child what they see when they look in the mirror. If their response is positive, reaffirm their statement. If it’s negative, honor the reality of their feelings. Also help them to look beyond their perceived shortcomings to also acknowledge their best qualities and strengths. The power of positive reinforcement is not to be underestimated!
- Be an outlet. Parental influences play a large role in a child’s self-esteem. Listen to your child’s struggles, encourage a positive attitude and support them in achieving their goals.
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[1,2] Formula PR Independent Study, 2013